Knotwell

Talk about what you want. See only what you both want.

Knotwell is a private app for couples and small groups to talk about what they want, what they are curious about and where their limits are. Each person answers alone. The app shows only what everyone wants.

Coming soon to the App Store and Google Play.

Knotwell is for adults aged 18 and over.

Six possible answers

Every activity gets an answer from you, given in private. There are no right answers.

  • YesI want this.
  • Yes, with conditionsYes, but let us talk first.
  • MaybeI am curious.
  • Fantasy onlyI like imagining it, not doing it.
  • NoNot for me. That is fine.
  • Hard limitNever. Please do not suggest it.

The first four appear only when there is a match. "No" and "Hard limit" never appear.

How it works

  1. Learn

    Read short guides on communication, consent and care. At your own pace, with no rush.

  2. Answer in private

    Each person answers alone, on their own phone, a list of activities described calmly. There are six possible answers.

  3. Connect with a link

    Invite the other person with a private link. Both phones show a safety code. Compare it by voice or video, so you can be sure you are talking to each other.

  4. See only what is mutual

    The app shows only what you both wanted. The rest stays where it is: private.

Privacy in plain terms

What we can promise, and what we cannot.

End-to-end encrypted
What you share with the group is encrypted on your phone before it leaves, using the MLS protocol. Only people in the group can read it.
No accounts
We do not ask for a name, email or phone number. Your identity is a key kept on your phone.
The server reads nothing
Our server only sees ciphertext, public keys and random identifiers.
Your "no" stays with you
The app never shows anyone your "no" or your hard limits.
Hidden categories
If you hide a category, it looks to everyone else as if you had answered "no". Nobody can tell that you hid it.
Nothing stored by us
There is no backup on our servers. Your answers, notes and history stay on your phone, encrypted.
Hosted in the EU
The relay server is in the EU, on Cloudflare, which is a US company. It only holds encrypted data.
No ads, no tracking
No ads, no usage analytics, no crash reports sent to third parties.

Good to know

  • To find what you have in common, the other person's app receives your answers, including your "no" answers. Our app never shows them. A tampered app could.
  • If someone answers "yes" to everything, they learn everything you said yes to.
  • If you leave a group, the other person keeps on their phone what had already been revealed.
  • There are no accounts and no backup. If you lose your phone, you start over.

Read the full privacy policy

Adults only

Knotwell is for adults aged 18 and over. The app asks you to confirm your age before anything else.

Coming soon to the App Store and Google Play.